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Rekindle with a past love?

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Recently went through a breakup with who I thought was a soul mate. Will we rekindle or end up with other people? If we rekindle, then when and what needs to happen when we're apart? Will we be successful? If not, will I be able to find a love that is as fulfilling and when?
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Dear Love Sick:

As hard as it is to hear, sometimes soulmates don’t belong together. Maybe it’s circumstance, fate, or even random chance, but not every relationship ends up Happily Ever After like in those romantic comedies.

If you think there is still a chance that this relationship can work, then you need to do the hard work. Let some time pass, so that tempers have cooled, and you both have some distance from what I assume was a painful breakup. After that, you will need to sit down with this person you think is your soulmate. Be willing to ask questions that will get you real answers, and answer honestly to any of their questions. Find out what went wrong, what could have been done differently, and if your ex thinks that your relationship might be viable later. But that’s not where the hard work ends. If you do get back together, you will both have to dig deep, and put in the hours of communicating, understanding, and changing those old habits that weren’t working for you.

If, after some introspection or a conversation with your ex, you don’t see a future for the two of you, don’t try to jump back into the dating pool immediately. Grieve the relationship for as long as it takes (more than a month but less than a year is a good estimate). Figure out what went wrong, what you need to do differently in your next relationship, and what you needed from this past relationship that you didn’t get. You might surprise yourself with the answers.

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Sometimes relationships just aren't meant to be but that's not always the case. I had been with my soul mate for quite a while until she decided to call it quits. It definitely hurt but the best thing you can do is to try to stay busy to pass time or to eventually move on. I went about 2 months with 0 contact with the girl I loved and she actually came back and wanted to start over again from the beginning. We aren't a couple at the moment but we are working back up to it and taking things slow. It's about a 50/50 chance that you will be reunited or not. Wish I could be more helpful.

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