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My weird relationship

I need a female’s opinion on my weird relationship. I’m a guy in college, and I’ve been seeing this girl casually for a few weeks now, but I have my reservations. We’re not official or anything, she’s really skittish about commitment and stuff. My main concern is that she was kind of seeing a guy before me in a similar way, and I don’t think that she’s stopped seeing him. She says it’s winding down with him, and she’s not going to keep seeing him, but that hasn’t happened yet. And whenever we’re out together, she’s weird about being seen with me around his frat brothers. It’s like she wants to see me, but she doesn’t want seeing me to have a permanent effect on her seeing this other guy. She’s a really sweet girl, and I really like her, but am I wrong for staying in this weird quasi-relationship?
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In my experience, whenever a woman says that she does not want to be in a serious relationship with you, what she is really trying to say in womanese is that she doesn’t want to be in a real relationship with you. This will sound a bit harsh, but you need to cut her off and if she is not screwing with you, she will just come running back, because by the looks of it, this girl you’re seeing is playing typical girl games. Be a man about it, flip the switch on her and just go about your business.

And then there’s the other issue of her being weird about being seen with you. So, is that just with her ex’s (who isn’t officially because she’s still seeing him right!) frat boys or is it the same with her friends, family etc.?

What you could try to do is talk to her about it and just be blunt about how you feel. Ask her and give her an ultimatum. Tell her that if she isn't embarrassed of you, she will put your relationship first, or at least have the decency to tell you otherwise. Because right now, it looks like all she’s doing is keeping her options open. For a woman, it’s important to be proud of her man, so if she’s showing signs that she isn’t, then you’re in for a bumpy ride ahead. Sadly, what I think is that she’s just not into you, and she doesn’t know how to break it up, so in the meantime, she’s making excuses not to be in a commitment with you, while she’s going out with her old boyfriend. Expert answer - Find more experts: click here!

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