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Is my youngest son gay?

Hi, I’m a stay at home mom and a Virgo. I need to know if my youngest son is gay. I’m not one of those moms that would kick him out of the house or anything, but I feel like if I ask him directly about it there could be a few problems. For one, it could make him feel pressured to tell me before he was ready to tell me. It could also make him feel insecure if he isn’t because if even your mom thinks you’re gay, you know? I’m not even sure that you could or couldn’t tell me whether or not he’s gay. If you can’t tell me for sure one way or another, do you have any suggestions as to how I could deal with this situation? In this day and age there just aren’t any rulebooks for this kind of parenting.
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Astagold22,

Contrary to popular belief, there is no checklist to determine whether a person is gay. I have known gay people who were “obvious”, and gay people who you would never believe were gay, even if you saw them kissing someone of the same sex. And I’ve known people that fall all in between those two on the spectrum of sexuality.

The real question you need to ask yourself is not, “Is my son gay?”, but “Why do I care?” If you want to know out of curiosity, just wait it out. Be sure that he knows that you don’t judge people on their sexuality, and that you will love him no matter who he grows up to be.

If you want to protect him from the world, you can’t. The same applies here. Let him know he’s loved, he’s supported, and he can tell you anything. He’ll come around and tell you when he’s ready.

Life can be tough for LGBT children and teens, but support from his family will go a long way toward making him feel safe, loved, and wanted. Will you still love your son if he is gay? What if he is straight, bisexual, and transgender? If you don’t know, that’s something you need to explore within yourself, not with him.

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