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Advice on My date

A guy asked me out so I drove an hour and a half to go see him, we went on a walk around a lake and talked and it was going really good. Then he took me out to eat and bought us drinks and paid for everything. I had a really good time and I think he was having a good time too, we were off our phones and keeping eye contact. After we met up with some of his friends who I've met before and had some more drinks, we ended up going back to his apartment and getting intimate. The next morning we were talking and laughing just fine and when I was leaving he told me the next time he would be coming to my town. The next day we talked a little just normal stuff, like we had before the date.. The day after that I was starting to question how he really felt about our date so I had text him saying " I had a really good time on Saturday. Thanks for asking me out" he responded with "haha you're welcome I had a fun time too" I wasn't sure whether or not if I should respond but I replied "I hope we can do it again sometime (:" and all he responded was "(:" personally I took it as he doesn't really care and just wanted to respond.. I'm not sure what to think. It's been two days and I've waited to see if he would say anything first because I'm 2/3 times I'm the one who says something first. He hasn't said anything in 2 days and he has me on snapchat and views my story. I'm not sure what I should do.. Wait it out and see if he says anything? Should I say something first? Or is it just a hint to let it go and move on? Any advice would help me a ton!
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Geminimanders,

It sounds to me like you both had a good time, but that you might be reading more into the “date” than he is. Did he ever call it a date, or was that just how you interpreted it? Take a look back, and if he never said it was a date, it is likely that he didn’t consider it one.

If it was a date, he might be following the old 72-hour rule that dictates how long a man should wait before contacting someone he has been on a date with, and actually likes. My advice is to wait it out. Give him a few days. If he’s still stalking you on social media, but he hasn’t reached out, feel free to send him an easy-going, friendly message. Don’t ask him to “Define the Relationship” too soon. That’s one of the biggest mistakes women make in dating men.

If he hasn’t reached out in a few days, and he’s no longer following you closely on social media, let it go and move on. He wasn’t that interested. Too many people spend weeks, months, or years tied up in a fantasy relationship with someone who doesn’t return your feelings – don’t fall into that trap. Life is too short to waste your time mooning over someone who isn’t into you.

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Your 1st mistake was to travel to see him in the first place! If you're out drinking almost 2 hours away, did you really think you'd be in shape to drive back home? He had you exactly where he wanted you....you accommodated him by travelling to him, and you gave it up on the first date....he doesn't owe you a damn thing! He got what he wanted. And, a man paying for everything on a date is what he us supposed to do. Have a higher expectation from the men you date...but most of all, for yourself.

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I think you have unfortunately been had by a charmer. He was nice and you enjoyed yourself. But he was just in it for one thing. I suggest do not contact him and move on. His response of "ha ha" says it all

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